Don't get back get happy - the ultimate revenge

the mindset you didn't think about

ALWAYS REMEMBER: You are better and worth more than someones temporary regret.

What’s our first reaction when we’ve been wronged? It is to ‘get back’, ‘get revenge’, or ‘let them know what they’re missing’. It is a normal human emotion to want them to feel the pain they just put you through.

Classic Example: The breakup mistake - It’s common for people to embark on a ‘glow up’ journey out of spite. It’s the classic “you f*cked up because I’m hotter than ever now”. That was always funny to me considering the reason most people break up is not because of how they look.

The ‘breakup’ recipe to follow - taking time for yourself leading to a glow up, not just in appearance, but in emotional health as well. This is what happens when you do it for YOU not out of spite. Maybe now you’re working out because you were missing gym sessions because of them. You eat more/less because you don’t have them influencing/dictating your food choices. You get ready for you now because you want to feel good. You start to worry and care about yourself and your emotions because you no longer have them monopolized by someone else.

The entire idea of this article is to prove that getting revenge on someone is nowhere near as fulfilling as focusing most of that energy back into yourself and your goals.

What people think their glow up needs to be

The two mindsets:

Real Change: I ate better because I want to feel better. I worked out to feel confident, strong, and accomplished. I’m meeting up with people broaden my social skills and become a better me. I’m posting this sexy picture on my story because I love it. I’m taking time for myself to reflect and heal because future me will thank me.

Temporary Revenge: I eat better to get a new shape I think everyone else will prefer. I work out to get skinny. I’m meeting up with people to post on my story and make him/them jealous. I’m posting this sexy picture on my story to show him/them what they’re missing.

Revenge is not giving someone satisfaction of having their actions impede on your life. The best “revenge” is not putting in any more effort that makes you upset and focusing all that back into yourself.

I can’t say I am an expert at revenge but, the art of moving on from something toxic is somewhat of a specialty of mine. Who wins in this case scenario? You.

When you put all your energy into yourself for yourself, it can be life lasting. To put all your energy into yourself for someone else is only a temporary fix.

Instead of proving them all wrong prove yourself right.  Everything else is a bonus.