The Power of Being Naked

(unconventional ways to accelerate building confidence, unclothed)

I used to shy away when looking at my naked body in the mirror.

I never wanted to look at myself for too long for fear of being either disgusted or conceited I became uncomfortable looking at my reflection because I almost felt like I wasn’t supposed to, even though it is my body. 

We are taught by society that our bodies are private, should be covered, and even taboo. At school my shorts weren’t allowed to be above my fingers, I wasn’t allowed to wear leggings because they clutched my skin, and my shoulders, of all things, were banned.

I’m here to help you reverse that mindset and to be comfortable with your nakedness while in turn being confident in your body fully clothed:

#1 Sleep Naked:  The first few times I did it, I felt awkward and uncomfortable. It took me months to do it consistently but now it is the way I prefer. I can’t express to you the freedom I gained. You are fully-clothed for most of your day. It would not be normal for you to be 100% confident naked 100% of the time. If I think about it, I used to spend only 30-60 minutes of my day naked out of 1,440.

I was able to increase those minutes by dreaming for 8-9 hours in the nude. That would lead to 540-600 more minutes in your day getting comfortable in your skin.

#2 Stand in front of the mirror:  Look at your reflection. Do not shy away. You might like what you see, or you might not. That is okay. What I want you to do is to get comfortable and familiar with your body first. The next step is to pose in flattering ways that make you feel sexy. It’s okay if it takes a hundred trips to the mirror to get that reaction.  If you feel stupid, good. You should. You should feel conceded and awkward as f*ck.

You HAVE to get uncomfortable if you EVER want to feel comfortable.

I even recommend dancing naked or with very minimal clothing to get used to the way your body moves, jiggles, and looks. Find ways to normalize your body while finding new ones to feel sexy.

#3 Explore yourself:  Yes, I do mean to masturbate and getting comfortable with your body. In the wise words of Oprah, “How on earth can you expect to have great (or even good) sex if you are not even sure what you like? Only after you are comfortable with just you, yourself, and more you can you expect to be comfortable with anyone else in the picture”. This will be an entire article in itself so I won’t get into too much detail right now!

#4 Walk around unclothed: Preferably when you are home alone or if you live with your partner. My bet is, your partner will not be too upset with this exercise. If they are, probably best to dump their ass and find someone who appreciates this wholesome activity. Cook, clean, do work on your bed, or get ready in the nude! You can even start with an open robe, shirtless, or in an apron and work your way up. You will be shocked with how quickly being uncomfortable turns into “I am a badass".

#5 ACCEPT all compliments before, during, or after anything sexual:

Accept every compliment given to you or about your body. Even if you do not believe it at the moment, let them. As far as you are concerned, they view you as perfect unless stated otherwise.

If nothing else, get comfort knowing they are attracted to you because I do not believe they would be in your bed if they were not.  It is time to start acting like it.

Confidence is a turn on so fake it until you make it (with the confidence only!!). I know it can be tempting to seek validation with the things that make you insecure but no one wants to feel like they need to reassure instead of compliment. I suggest waiting until you are out of the bedroom to share your insecurities with someone you trust. Enjoy your moment <3